Therapy for queer and trans adults navigating eating disorders and struggles with self-worth.
It’s time to come home to yourself
You want to focus on other aspects of your life, but that persistent dissatisfaction with yourself and your body image demands all your attention. Comparing yourself to others feels like a necessity but always leaves you feeling like crap. You find yourself questioning why others seem to effortlessly feel good about themselves.
You want to accept yourself and your body, to feel that core authenticity, that peaceful confidence. But it feels like every attempt to reclaim that sense of inner peace requires one more thing—an endless cycle of striving and never feeling quite good enough. Anxiety and shame have become constant companions, casting a shadow over your thoughts and actions. You are left feeling isolated and alone.
You are not alone in feeling this way.
Feeling this way about yourself sucks. Living in a culture that emphasizes making us feel like we are never enough is the worst.
But it is possible to have a different kind of relationship with yourself.
You never thought you would still be here, feeling this same old way about yourself.
The body-positive quote on your Instagram feed isn't cutting it
You told yourself you would stop treating yourself like this but it doesn't seem to stick. It feels like the only way to have some control in a world where things are spinning out. Letting go of the negative way you treat yourself feels like everything you've worked for will just fall apart.
We can often feel like criticism is the only foul for self-improvement. It’s so overwhelming and anxiety-inducing, and the whole thing just makes you feel stuck and alone all over again. Of course, you feel stuck. Most of my clients do when they first come in.
My goal for you is to help you build the relationship you want with your body and your whole dynamic self.
Having a good relationship with your body these days often looks monochromatic and unachievable. The stuff we see on social just adds a layer of shame. You WANT to feel good about yourself but the road map to get there often feels like jumping from A to Z.
Therapy with me looks like filling in the rest of the alphabet. Together we will explore, identify, and reprocess old wounds and new desires. Rediscovering, or building anew your authentic alive self.
Don’t get me wrong this is hard work but coming home to yourself is so worth it!
We will work together to untangle unhealthy social expectations that you have internalized.
I need to put myself down in order to beat others (who are obviously thinking it) to the punch.
If I was just skinnier, more organized, cooler, I could rest and be happy.
People would think I was too-faced and never want to be friends with me If they knew how mean I was to myself.
If I was like (The person you are always comparing yourself to) then I could get the love I so badly want.
I need to withhold self-acceptance until I change, just that one thing.
And daydream into, how you want to feel.
Self-acceptance in your right here, right now, imperfect and totally amazing self.
inspired and energized to spend time doing things that light you up.
Relaxed, it’s ok to stop and rest.
At home in body and spirit.
Loveable by yourself and others for nothing else but who you are.
It’s ok if this feels a little out of reach right now.
When clients first come in I often hear something like. “ I know logically that I should treat myself better, but I just can’t make myself believe it. I just don’t feel it in my body.” This is so normal. Getting your brain and body in alignment will be at the core of our work together.
What does therapy with me look like?
In our initial intake session, we will go over, and fill out paperwork and then spend some time exploring what you want, and what’s feeling hard. Together we will build a path forward. After our initial session, we will begin meeting weekly, this allows us to really get into the work, and build our relationship.
If you think we might be a good fit please reach out for a free 20-minute phone consultation. This is a chance for us both to ask questions and get a feel for how we will work together.